Airene D. Palmes
Dr. Barbara Garrett
18 December 2021
One Student Story: My Story
Before taking this course, I struggled with having a victim mindset; I compare myself to others, often thinking of failing because of my decision, managing stress, and anxiety. A simple task overwhelms me, whether for school, work, or commitments to others. And then, I started with this course. I have learned a fundamental life lesson in every chapter of this course, specifically chapters; two, five, six, and eight. These chapters made me realize the things I am lacking, and if I follow the book’s guidance, my life would be so much easier and my journey through college. The strategies in these chapters have helped me have a creator mindset and reduce my stress and anxiety.
To begin, I have the wrong mindset for college. I used to compare myself to other people, and I realized it was unhealthy. Before, I thought that what is good for others would be good for me. Therefore, I often decide from other people’s perspectives. I also thought of failing instead of claiming my success. At first, I thought it was part of me being humble, but I was wrong. It became negative energy that taught me to see less of myself. Chapter two, Accepting Personal Responsibility, became my eye-opener to how I was a victim rather than a creator. According to the textbook, a victim mindset believes that the external forces determine the outcomes and experiences of their lives. I decided to be myself, and I found a solution instead of accepting defeat early in the game. I started to accept the result even if it was not what I wanted, and I decided to believe that my choices determine the outcomes.
Learning to be interdependent instead of independent was one strategy that helped me reduce my level of stress and anxiety. I used to be a student that barely asked for help. Asking other people for help seems so hard for me to do. For example, I used not to let others read my essays for a double-check other than my teachers and then get disappointed by the outcome. I never considered that asking for help would reduce my stress. After reading chapter five, I realize that I will not be successful independently. Now, I choose to get a second opinion regarding my academic papers, and I choose to work with a team. I now have a perspective that more significant outcomes are when people collaborate. This strategy reduces my stress because I no longer worry about the possible outcomes. I became confident in my work because I made it with the help of people I trusted.
Another strategy that allowed me to lessen my stress and anxiety was to fix my sleeping schedule. I work ten to twelve hours a night, which only gives me so little time to sleep. I get home around five-thirty in the morning, do my homework until twelve to one o’clock, sleep for four hours, and then work and repeat. My sleeping schedule is unhealthy for my body and mind, which are my assets to succeed in school and the future. Chapter eight made me realize how I was overworking myself and using every energy I had that left me exhausted and stressed by the end of the week. I decided to start creating a sleeping schedule and doing my homework in advance. Every time I got a chance, I would complete an assignment early, giving me more time to sleep and more time to do my other assignments. After attempting this strategy, I feel refreshed. I can think clearly and rationalize things better rather than when I was lacking sleep.
In addition, I tried recording my progress as well. A strategy is called a journal. I used to keep my opinion and feelings to myself. I avoided telling someone what was happening because I was not too fond of misunderstanding. And then, I started this course where I wrote a journal for everything that I lacked and how to improve. Specifically, chapter eight taught me that I do not have to tell someone to vent my emotions. I could write it down. I write everything in my journal, from feeling upset, ranting to a disrespectful co-worker, every little success, and anything that happens throughout the day. My journal became the vent of my anger and any of my emotions. This strategy helped me get out of my dark self and be completely honest towards myself. This strategy also helped me easily let go of any negativity, especially stress.
Lastly, the final strategy that I have applied is to rewrite my outdated script. My self-defeating patterns lead me off course of my goals. I used to accept defeat and quit when things went wrong. After reading chapter six, I realized that it would never be too late to rewrite my script. According to the textbook, we are not stuck with our personal scripts or cultural programming. We can recreate ourselves. This strategy helps me to better myself. It makes me realize that I can always re-do what I did wrong and improve it. Now, I am more focused on how to make my present better. I do not think of my past failure, and now I have more of a creative mind to think of a solution. Now, I have the insight to prepare myself for any future challenges and accept the result.
These strategies helped me to deal with my stress and anxiety. I learned how to handle stress and get back on the path. I learned how to handle my emotions. I learned how to be a creator instead of being a victim. These strategies made me confident about my decision and myself. Now, I do not think of my future to fail because I am confident that I made the right decision and have the best strategy to back me up. The strategies I acquire will help me in college and my life after college. This course also taught me that stress comes in many different things, sometimes even simple things such as not having a wifi signal, forgetting your Apple ID password, or being a minute late to work. The only difference is, now, I know how to manage stress.
This course helped me to figure out what was sabotaging my success. I realized the things that were detrimental to my goals—so much appreciation for this course for being my eye-opener and guide. I am now more intelligent and confident about my decision, I am optimistic about my future, and I do not feel the stress and anxiety I used to experience. I am optimistic about my future and my career journey in the future.
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