Sabah Alhinnawi January 19th Dr. Takawi The Argument I Could Never Make

Sabah Alhinnawi
January 19th
Dr. Takawi
The Argument I Could Never Make
Living in the times we do now, many things have changed compared to even just 5 years ago. Unfortunately, some parents, especially parents of teenagers, tend to raise their kids in the same manner they were raised themselves. Growing up especially in an Arab culture, I’ve seen my fair share of parents who were overly strict with their children, leading their children to act in sneaky ways. Most parents, especially where I’m from, believe that being strict is the one and only true method of parenting, and while they believe that doing this will protect their young ones, it can cause more harm than good. I think parents to teenagers who are still at a younger age should be more cautious of how strict they are towards them because those years are the foundation of the rest of their lives. This is an argument that I’ve mentioned repeatedly to relatives and friends at home who weren’t fortunate enough to grow up in an environment where everyone was open minded and didn’t mix culture with religion. In hopes of changing their minds, I eventually realized that you couldn’t change someone’s beliefs overnight, especially when they aren’t used to seeing what you’re presenting or are surrounded by people who are against your argument. Still, I think this is an argument worth mentioning because it helps parents understand that harsh behavior doesn’t help children learn how to develop into becoming better people. In that age range, kids will make many of their first mistakes, as anyone else would, so it isn’t a great idea as a parent to set unrealistic expectations. Sure, having rules isn’t a bad thing, so long as you’re allowing them to enjoy themselves along with helping them understand the concept of responsibility and accountability, or in in other words, right from wrong. Not only does strict parenting lead to poor choices, but it can make your child become distant. This way, they’ll be retaining from speaking to them, opening up to them comfortably, and displaying words and acts of affection. What children need is structure, not to feel like they are trapped in a prison and won’t be able to live their lives until they reach adulthood (Which in some cultures doesn’t happen even when you DO reach adulthood). Another thing, is that as human we unintentionally become like the people we surround ourselves with. When being treated/raised in a terrible manner, children will learn to bully others. If using fear is your strategy, it will be theirs as well, and same goes as far as using force. We need to be cautious with how strict we are with our children because too much of something can never be good for us in any situation, even if we think so. Take studying for example, while we think constantly studying can benefit us, too much of it leads to burnout and students are usually no longer interested to keep going. The same applies to children, being too harsh on them or making them feel like they’re trapped might add up and at some point end up making them explode. I think my argument is a good one because from my personal experience, I have seen many outcomes of what ends up happening, therefore I am able to provide evidence to help prove that the argument is correct. Not only that, but all the examples, reasons, and points I used are relevant. Another reason I stick to this argument is because I compare it to another parenting style, one that’s more realistic in which parents have reasonable expectations, help their kids develop coping skills instead of punishing them, encourage them to be independent and open to communication, listen to them, and simply set consistent boundaries. Luckily, I have been fortunate enough to have parents who have provided me with their complete trust and endless support, even going as far as letting me come abroad to study on my own and pursue my education the way I wanted. I, myself, am living proof that not every child who is raised freely will turn out to be unsuccessful or irresponsible (or so I’d like to believe I don’t have those qualities) but that’s an argument I could never make.